Is it important, the person that your partner dated before? I never considered that question before, never ever, considering that myself and my x were both the first for each other. When with Guy, I had known that he had an x, his first girlfriend, during our university days. In between then and now, during our very occasional and brief conversations via chat, he had never mentioned that he was with another, and I had always assumed that he was always too absorb in yours truly to share his love for another.
Is it then natural for me to feel slightly cheated when he decided to inform me that in between those years, he had, in fact, been together with another person? What made the revelation even more difficult to fathom was the fact the person was someone I knew and was once very close with. She was one of those friends whereby we would still consider good friends even if we did not constantly keep in touch.
As that fact start to settle in my brain, it's really starting to unsettle me. It makes me wonder things unnecessarily. What was worse was that he had chosen not to tell me prior to us getting together. To say that I was not disappointed would be a lie. He might have his reasons to do so, one major reason given was the lack of courage to do so, since I knew that girl quite well. He was afraid I would not be able to accept that fact and consequently it might directly provide a negative impact towards my decision on the future of creating an US.
I am not sure then if I could accept such a reason. To my ears it sounded so lame. My most intimate secret was shared with him before we got together as I thought it was only fair that he knew in order to make an informed decision on creating an US. For me, to know a fact beforehand, especially of that nature, is certainly better and most welcomed than to not to know. To be broken of that news, now, at our point of relationship then, was certainly painful, truth to be told. I had thought that he would had more trust in me, believe that I would be able to accept and handle news of such nature. However, what had been in the past, is what made us US today. I but have to accept that fact. A little too late in the timing, but yet, thank you for informing.
You have to bear with me then, when I tend to ask you details to you that relationship every now and then, since you had managed to arouse my curiosity amidst all the disappointment. After all, you still did not stop to let me know that you still kept in the your heart, even during the time that you were with her. Mind you, it wasn't a short time. I believe you, yet at the same time, I feel sadness and betrayal for her. Without me knowing it, for being his love interest, I had once again, betrayed a friend, over love. How convenient! A big sigh..
Is it then natural for me to feel slightly cheated when he decided to inform me that in between those years, he had, in fact, been together with another person? What made the revelation even more difficult to fathom was the fact the person was someone I knew and was once very close with. She was one of those friends whereby we would still consider good friends even if we did not constantly keep in touch.
As that fact start to settle in my brain, it's really starting to unsettle me. It makes me wonder things unnecessarily. What was worse was that he had chosen not to tell me prior to us getting together. To say that I was not disappointed would be a lie. He might have his reasons to do so, one major reason given was the lack of courage to do so, since I knew that girl quite well. He was afraid I would not be able to accept that fact and consequently it might directly provide a negative impact towards my decision on the future of creating an US.
I am not sure then if I could accept such a reason. To my ears it sounded so lame. My most intimate secret was shared with him before we got together as I thought it was only fair that he knew in order to make an informed decision on creating an US. For me, to know a fact beforehand, especially of that nature, is certainly better and most welcomed than to not to know. To be broken of that news, now, at our point of relationship then, was certainly painful, truth to be told. I had thought that he would had more trust in me, believe that I would be able to accept and handle news of such nature. However, what had been in the past, is what made us US today. I but have to accept that fact. A little too late in the timing, but yet, thank you for informing.
You have to bear with me then, when I tend to ask you details to you that relationship every now and then, since you had managed to arouse my curiosity amidst all the disappointment. After all, you still did not stop to let me know that you still kept in the your heart, even during the time that you were with her. Mind you, it wasn't a short time. I believe you, yet at the same time, I feel sadness and betrayal for her. Without me knowing it, for being his love interest, I had once again, betrayed a friend, over love. How convenient! A big sigh..
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