do not judge and do not nudge

I came across the newspaper article unexpectedly. It's like god gave me a nudge, here have this side. I had, originally wanted to take another piece instead. Yeah, I took the newspaper not for reading, as you can see, but to use it, to destroy it.

I saw the title, and read it. At first, I was just reading a small part of it, the few ending paragraphs of the half page long article. It just grabbed me. What the writer wrote was just one of the many things that I had wondered always. And always could not get a rational answer.

The writer was describing about her child, her man child, all grown up. How she thought having given her best in raising him up, he was doing well upon graduation. He held a good job and was in a what was then a steady relationship. She had thought that perhaps she might not need to do anymore parenting once he got hitched and settle down.

And how he went through a painful break up. Survived it and am now doing well. On her side of the story, how she saw it, observed it, and how she had admitted, at least, in trying what she had thought was her doing best to help the relationship, but unfortunately, might had instead accelerated it on-course for the break up.

One line captured me almost immediately was how honest she had put it. Getting her son married off would then allow her to take a break and have one less worry on her shoulders. This was my initial interpretation of what she wrote. And I was really dumbfounded.

All the while, I had only suspected that parents think along these lines. But had never heard a parent saying or admitting. And now, I have proof. Never thought that I would be given in the written form too.

Why, oh why, can't them parents not think like before? Marriages are not as easy as it was before. Now, there's just more pressure to it, both for the guys and gals. If there is no asking, begging, and wishing aloud for help or butting in, in anyway, why not just sit back and try enjoy the show. Do not judge and do not nudge. I beg you, all parents of children who are in what you deemed 'steady relationship'.