Articles on maintaining and improving relationships between you and your significant other that I had the good opportunities to stumble upon and the even better discipline to read them, always have one thing in common. They always stressed that a couple should never end the day, their day, bickering. Or having negative tension enveloping all over them. Writing in another angle, a couple should solve and resolve all problems before hitting the sack. Kiss and make up. Love and be love again. End the day with tender loving care, so that the next day, if they are lucky enough to have it together, can start with the right footing, the love foot.
To knowingly allow a problem to simmer over the night as the couple slumbers is simply being irresponsible. They voluntarily let a wedge come between them. As little as it maybe, a tiny wedge is still a tool that separates. Many a problem tends to start from, believe it or not, a tiny wedge, which failed to be dislodge when it was first placed there, intentionally or otherwise. Let sit long enough, the pressure builds and soon, without realizing it, it's just impossible to remove it. Pressure continues, hairline cracks appear, the wedge being pushed in deeper as time passes, the problem never addressed but sat on, like a hen sitting on her eggs, waiting for the right time to hatch her beloved babies. Except there's no right time and beloved babies in this matter. Just ugliness and selfishness of the human minds.
It is one of the cardinal sins of relationship problems.
And I think I had committed a sin, last night. And worse, I am still doing nothing to resolve it. And it takes two to tango!
To knowingly allow a problem to simmer over the night as the couple slumbers is simply being irresponsible. They voluntarily let a wedge come between them. As little as it maybe, a tiny wedge is still a tool that separates. Many a problem tends to start from, believe it or not, a tiny wedge, which failed to be dislodge when it was first placed there, intentionally or otherwise. Let sit long enough, the pressure builds and soon, without realizing it, it's just impossible to remove it. Pressure continues, hairline cracks appear, the wedge being pushed in deeper as time passes, the problem never addressed but sat on, like a hen sitting on her eggs, waiting for the right time to hatch her beloved babies. Except there's no right time and beloved babies in this matter. Just ugliness and selfishness of the human minds.
It is one of the cardinal sins of relationship problems.
And I think I had committed a sin, last night. And worse, I am still doing nothing to resolve it. And it takes two to tango!
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