LOVE THYSELF

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Wednesday January 11, 2012

Free and spoiling myself silly

By LOVE THYSELF

MY life has always revolved around my children. Nurturing them to become successful and responsible adults has been my responsibility and, their interests, my priority!

Once they reached marriageable age, though, the situation changed with the introduction of their other half, someone who can help extend or break the family.

My son chose his girlfriend over me! His six-month relationship with the woman apparently supersedes his mother’s 29 years of sacrifices.

So distraught was I that I had bouts of insomnia and depression. The reality of a lost son hit me badly.

Thereupon I have realised that life is all about oneself and no other. Determined not to wallow in sorrow, I decided to put myself first and indulge in passions I had long shelved because of my earlier commitment as a mother.

I enrolled for music and dance classes. I treat myself to sessions at the beauty parlour and spoil myself with a daily body massage and hours of facial massage weekly – luxuries I once thought were a sheer waste of time and money.

I have changed my otherwise bland wardrobe, too, with the hope of growing old gracefully. I also pamper myself with trips abroad.

From within the comfort of my home, I further explore the world and expand my knowledge by surfing the Internet. One is never too old to learn.

For the first time since motherhood, I feel free of encumbrance and spend extravagantly with what would have been my children’s inheritance!

I have discarded any thought of clinging on to my children. To me, great are the parents who are independent of their children.

Whether gleeful, sad or miserable, we, ourselves, dictate our lives. I feel 22 instead of 52. Age is after all but a figure!

TAKEN FROM HERE : http://thestar.com.my/lifestyle/story.asp?file=/2012/1/11/lifefocus/10221986&sec=lifefocus

15 days before the Dragon arrives!

I need to start the countdown to Chinese New Year 2012 as soon as possible.

Perhaps then my mood to shop for the occasion will start growing?

I sure hope so.

Have not done any shopping yet for new clothes and shoes.

Worse still, don't have the oomph to do so!

So here it goes....

15 days to CNY 2012!

15 days before the Dragon arrives!

Lethargy in Passive Old Girl

I have never been an active person. I find that if I'm busy for too long a period, I will easily feel burnt out and lethargic in the mind. The body, of course, would have long been tired and exhausted from the over use.

But how long is long? Not sure. Right now, right up till the upcoming Chinese New Year celebration of 2012, I have all my weekends filled up with activities, starting roughly from the weekend before Christmas of last year. This is a far cry from my usual way of lazing the weekends away.

The business started with attending a BBQ organized by relatives from my maternal side for a small family gathering. That was the weekend before Christmas. It was certainly a great to catch up with them as I've not seen most of them for at least a couple of years. I then spent the next day with my former boss, when he was down here for a business trip, showing him around, rekindling his memories of Melaka.

Christmas weekend was celebrated by making Kuih Belanda for 2 straight days. It was under my persuasion and with some help from the stars, my mother and I ended up making the delicacy for Chinese New Year this year. What a wonderful way to relive my younger days and also to experience traditional way of making this delicacy. Hard work, but totally satisfying!

New Year 2012 was ushered in my own place, as Wonderful Guy came back on the eve. That weekend started with a rush to the airport to catch him and then we journeyed back home to his place and our place. They are of the same area. I spent the afternoon starting my mission to clean up our house to get it ready for the Chinese New Year after dropping him off at his parents'. A small dinner gathering at night to commemorate his parents' wedding anniversary and then it was back to work the next 2 days. After 2 long days of washing and vacuuming and cleaning up the house, I can now proudly say the house is 60% ready. I even managed to go round house-hunting with a friend and then the two of us had a small but wonderful dinner gathering together with another friend. I got Wonderful Guy to do the remaining since he would be there before I left for home.

This weekend is the fourth weekend buzzing with another round of some things to strike off the to-do list. Vacuuming of the downstairs done, roasting cashew nuts done, and last round of my bak kua experiment is in progress. I might just go ahead and vacuum the car if I still feel energetic enough later. Right now, I feel hot, my face is flushed and the area behind my knee is sweaty!

Next week, the plan is to do my shopping in the capital city, but right now I'm really having second thoughts on that. The tiredness is sipping in considerably now. Though I've managed to put ticks to quite a number of things on my to-do list, I've yet to work on my DIY projects, and that's giving me a little of stress mentally. That might be the trade off I had to do, so yes, I am seriously reconsidering my plan to driving up. The lethargy is kicking in surely into this passive old girl. Oh, by the way, did I mentioned that Auntie popped in for a visit since yesterday as well?